Last week, a young fan said to
Ariana Grande’s boyfriend, Mac Miller, “Ariana is sexy as hell, man. I see you,
I see you hitting that!!!" Ariana’s response was rightly indignant: "Hitting
that? The f***?? This may not seem like a big deal to some of you but I felt
sick and objectified. I was also sitting right there when he said it."
Can we all agree that the fan was
totally out of line, not just for saying that in front of her but for saying
that at all? It’s a cold objectification of a human being whose value is
reduced to her' tappability'. Ariana
desires to be seen as a strong, independent woman whose value comes from an
inherent dignity, not her sexual desirability. I don’t blame her for wanting
this. All women deserve to be treated
with value, worth and dignity because they are human beings.
Can we also all agree there is
some sad irony here? Ariana makes her living in an industry that has normalized
the use of ‘hit’ or ‘tap’ to refer to sex – and in so doing, our cultural
troubadours have made it acceptable to refer to women as objects whose value is
found in how eagerly men wish to ‘tap’ them. Here’s just a small sample easily
found with a google lyric search – and I will let her boyfriend, Mac Miller,
lead the way. I apologize for the language, but...it is what it is.