Monday, October 16, 2017

The Plague Of Porn

As much as I like to explore both sides of an issue, the two sides of this issue are remarkably lopsided. Pornography is a moral and social plague that brings devastation to those who make it and those who use it. Here's the argument I will make, and which my links will support:
  • It dehumanizes, objectifies, and eventually destroys the actors and actresses who make it.
  • It turns those who make and produce it into callous users if not predators.
  • It ruins romantic relationship emotionally, sexually and relationally. 
  • It ruins normal relationships as users get used to the commodification of people.
  • It fuels “acting out” as many (not all) users find that simply viewing an activity is not enough.
  • It fuels a culture that normalizes sexually abusive behavior (see the recent headlines about a daunting list of predatory males - then ask women around you if they have had those kinds of experiences with men in their lives)
Full disclosure: I gave ten years of my life to pornography. Fortunately, this was before I had easy access to the internet, so I was spared the easy escalation of clicking on the next link. I didn't need that to fall into an addiction. Had you asked me at the time, I would have said it was no big deal (except for the shame and depression that followed my inability to stop). It wasn't until I found freedom - which is a story for another time, and involved what I consider to be God's miraculous and crushing intervention in my life - that I realized how much it had been impacting my view of women and sex, as well as my overall judgment of what gave people value, worth and dignity.

I rant about this not because I sit astride some moral high horse; I'm pleading with you as one who was broken by this, and as one who did not realize until later that cost that all those around me would pay for all the time I spent training myself to view the world through pornified lenses. As I moved from addition to freedom, I spent a lot of time reading up on how porn impacts the brain, how it impacts relationships, and how it devastates those who make it. I also spent a lot of time refilling my mind with truth (more on that in the links at the end).

It is not a victimless crime. Someone always pays a price. Don't take my word for it; read the links. There's a lot of them, but there's probably not enough that can be said about the seriousness of this issue.

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DOCUMENTARIES ( I have not seen all of these. I am providing links that have been recommended). 

The Porn Pandemic
Addicted To Porn
Ten Million Throwaways
Out Of The Darkness
Somebody's Daughter
The Heart Of The Matter




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